Bondage ( restraint, sexual bondage )

This is from a old blog post from 2014 I believe it is my notes. I did update this post so you may see changes from the old blog post.

Bondage is tying, binding or restraining a partner for erotic stimulation

Types of restraints may be used are
- Rope
- Cuffs
- Bondage tape
- Self-adhesive bondages
Or other restaurants

Bondage may be used has end to itself, as in rope bondage and or breast bondage in BDSM activities

The B in BDSM comes from bondage. It is a very inportant part of BDSM

Bondage is a temporary transfer of power and control for the Dominant or sadomasochistic it is totel submission to the Dominant

Collar

Posted on my old blog in 2013


Many submissive wear a collar to denote their status and commitment. It much like a wedding band.
The traditional collar is neck band in leather or metal, chosen, designed or even crafted by the Dominant partner. Some subs wear a "symbolic collar". Often a bracelet or anklet chain, which is more subdued than the traditional collar and pass in non-BDSM situations.

Consent and contracts

Note: Post on my old blog in 2013


Consent and contracts can be granted in many ways some written (Dungeon negotiation form) others simple verbal commitment.
Often a submissive contracts involved a collar. Some celebrate the event with a collaring ceremony. Some ceremony can be quite elaborate and can be as involved as a wedding or any similar rituals.


Note: See my next post for more about a collar

Equipment and accessories

Note: This is from my old blog posted in 2013

Some Dominants have a special room called dugeon witch contains special equipment like
• Shackles
• Handcuffs
• Wips
• Queening stools
• Spanking benches
• Berkely horse
This is just some of the things you may find used to play in some scenes. Some may visit a BDSM clubs.

D/s relationship styles

Activities take many forms
• Domestic servitude or consensual slavery
• Enforced Chastity of the submissive
• Erotic humiliation
• Sexual slavery
• Verbal humiliation
• fetishes such as
          • Shoe/boot worship
          • Uniforms
          • Smoking
          • Latex
          • Heavy rubber and ect
• Dehumanization (pony or animal play) or objectification (forniphilia, becoming an inanimate object such has foot stool.
• Cross-dressing
• Whipping
• Corporal punishment
• Trampling
• Human furniture
• Human toilet like golden showers
• Feminization
• Cockold
• Bondage
• Public humiliation

This is just some of the things.

BDSM the meaning

Note: From my old blog and old blog Post from 2013


Is a erotic practice involving dominance and submission, role-play playing, restraint, and other interpersonal dynamics.
Wide rage of practices some engaged in by people who don't consider them selves practicing BDSM.
BDSM communuity and/or subculture is usually dependent on self-identification and shared exprence.
It can also be one time thing to lifestyle. BDSM or kink is sexual identity also constitutes a form of sexual orientation.
The term BDSM dates back to 1969
It is believed it was joined to gather with s&m (bondage and discipline)
s&m (sadomasochism or sadism and masochism) or as a compound initialism B&D, D&S
(dominance and submission) and s&m.
BDSM is used as a catch all phrase to include a wide range of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.
BDSM communities welcome anyone this may include cross-dressers, extreme body mod
Enthusiasts, animal players, latex or rubber aficionados, and others.
Because of unequal roles in BDSM it's idea of informed consent of both partners. Participants who exert sexual control over their partners are know as Dominant or tops. While participant who's receiving, or obedient role are known as submissive or bottoms.

Dom for man
Domme for woman
Individuals who can change between top/Dominant and bottom/submissive roles are called switches.
Switch seen as derogatory and is rejected by many.

Meaning of a submissive

Note this is a old blog post from a old blog posted on 8/22/14


The meaning of a submissive.
• The act of submitting to authority or control of another.
• The condition of heaving submitted to control by someone else.
• The surrendering of power to another person.

The words
      Obedient
      Slavish
      Servile
      Compliant
Can also be used to describe Submissive behavior.
A submissive is a person who makes conscious choice to give up some or all control of her life to another person= Dominant
Choosing to be submissive means to allow someone else to control your body and behavior within the present limits.
Submissive is not sign of weakness, some of the most successful and strongest people are true submissive.
Submission is a choice, and a wonderful gift to the Dominant. It should never be entered into lightly.
A submissive does whatever her Dominant requires of her.
She serves Him in whatever manner He wishes, for His pleasure and His comfort serving can take many other forms.
       • Taking care of His house.
       • Cooking
       • Cleaning
       • Accompany Him On outings
       • Sitting at His feet
       • Running errands
       • Doing shopping
He may have tasks for His submissive for
       • His own amusement
       • Purpose
       • Improv her situation
       • Challenge her mind
       • What He needs done.
Long term arrangements the degree of submission is deeper can include things like
       • What she eats
       • What she wears
A true submissive really want to please the Dominant and there bad behavior is not common occurrence, the need to serve Master is overwhelming, my need to sit at His feet, to call Him Master, to do His bidding and to accept His authority and control of my life, it is what I live for.
Am I allowed to make small decisions for myself?
Of course all of these things are at the discretion of the Dominant.
Submissive will always remember her place.
Submissive needs to show respect to people around her.
Submissive needs to remember that whatever she does is a direct reflection on her Master.
Some Submissive use Sir or  madam when addressing other Dominants but it's more of the choice of the submissive Dominant how the submissive will address other people.
Find great deal of joy in learning about and putting into practice, the protocols demanded of a good submissive.

Books every kinkers needs

Note this was posted in my old blog 8/22/14

Slave Craft
Slave 101
Leather man's handbook
Different loving
The ultimate guide to kink by Tristan taormino
Sm 101
Screw the rose
Give me the thorns
The new topping book
        And
The new Bottoming book
        By Dossie Easton
Playing well with others
Lesbian s/m safety manual
Toy bag guide

BDSM videos every kinkers needs

Note: This was posted in my old blog in 8/22/14



The image
Videodrome
Blue velvet
The secretary
The story o
The exit Eden

You can't change a submissive into something she not.

You can't change a submissive into something she not. You protect and guide her help her grow. When she submits to you it is the most precious gift she can give you .
The man should respect this gift above he should respect the waman in his care, it is swearing duty to protect her honor and cherish his submissive.
He is to care and provide a safe haven. He should put his needs above his own needs. Some one that doesn't is no Dominant.

Contract of consenual ownership

This is old post from one of old blogs in 2013 but I been asked about this a lot lately I will update this information in a future post but for now this should give you a idea.


The purpose of this contract is to,
A) State the full mutual consent of the understanding in regards to this relationship.

B) Explaining the responsibilities and duties of both Master and submissive.

C) Define safe words and safe signs and their use.

D) Explain the use of punishment.

E) Foster a greater sense of communication between respective parties.

This contract is no way legally binding and meant only as aid to better understanding of the needs, duties, and responsibilities of the Master and submissive.

What a contract looks like


I (sub)__________________ here and after referred to as submissive, do of my own free will, and being of sound mind and body, here by offer myself to (Dom)_________________ here in after referred to as my Master.

Either party only in the event of breach of contact may terminate this agreement at any time this agreement may be reviewed, negotiated and rewritten or terminated at anytime.

1) Submissive agrees to obey to the best ability, and to devote herself entirely to the pleasure and desires of her Master. Submissive also renounce all rights to her pleasure, comfort, or gratification except in so far as permitted by Master. Master agrees to learn what excites submissive through exploration and communication and to try to incorporate this into the relationship.

2) Master accepts full responsibility of submissive. This includes but not limited to; submissive survival, health, physical well being, and mental well being. Submissive accepts full responsibility for informing Master of any real or perceived dangers or safety concerns, but also stater that Master decision will be final regarding these issues. Master agrees The submissive will not be punished for respectfully stating these concerns. Master further agrees listen to submissive concerns with a clear and open mind. Master shall not inflict physical harm upon submissive which might require the attention of someone outside of the relationship.

3) Submissive agrees at all times to make her body reading available for Master for His use. Submissive will have hair washed and brushed in the style Master prefers at all times. Submissive agrees to wear any clothing Master picks, subject to use of the safe word.

4) Submissive agrees to accept responsibility of using safe word when necessary. Submissive acknowledges that her safe word is _________________ and safe sign is "x" ( index and middle finger crossed ). Master accepts the responsibilities of assessing situations where submissive calls safe word or uses the safe sign and will stop all activity entirely. Master agrees not to punish submissive for use of safe word or safe signal.

5) Submissive agrees to answer any and all questions asked by Master and vise versa.

Note a D/s contract is like a marriage.