The paradox of dominance & submission

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The Paradox of Dominance & Submission

Simply being a partner in a D/s relationship confers no inherent advantage, no guarantee of happiness nor fulfillment. Like any relationship, it thrives only when each partner accepts their responsibility as one half of an intricate dance, making a conscious daily effort to celebrate their partner.

The paradox that every woman exploring submission must eventually learn to understand and accept is that in accepting his collar, and clicking her leash into place, she is not becoming a slave: she is being set free. It is not a man, but her freedom from inhibition, and the freedom to become who she has always wanted to be that she is giving herself to.

The challenge that every man aspiring to dominance must accept is in understanding that her submission doesn’t make him a master, it makes him a servant. Great dominants accept with glee the challenge of taking a powerful being into their capable hands and, like grapes from the best vines, knowing how to squeeze her in all the ways that extract the very finest of her fruit. Then with patience and dedication, allowing it to ferment into something seductive and beautiful.

Getting into the lifestyle

   Going into this lifestyle, you should have a positive attitude, just because your lonely, or want to beat some girl or hate a woman that not a good enough reason why.

   I know most or good majority of submissives suffer from PTSD they feel icky and not in a decent place but that doesn't call for having a dad day They turn that attitude around it became away of life for them.

some of the ways 

writing

pedicures

massage

hair done

little me time

   You want your sub to feel loved cherished don't use this lifestyle because you feel bad about yourself. Sure it's a good release, but should be used in a good way.

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When abuse is crossed

   If you are a Dominant and you do not provide your submissive with some aftercare this is abuse you have crossed the line.
   You are holding a extreme, emotional vulnerability person in your hands. Throwing them down leaving them there to cry/shake/experience sub drop alone your not a Dominant your cold hearted bastard.
Aftercare should look like
Making sure you have hydration and nutrition nearby, having clothing nearby, some warm blankets, some soothing touches and caresses to calm you.
Never leave your submissive alone, make sure your submissive is alright, check on the submissive. Caring for the submissive is part of being the Dominant.



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