Your sub is a warrior, she also the most strongest, smartest, kindest, intelligent, generous and the most independent person you know.
She not without flaws and weakness.
Look around her life and outside of the relationship, you wonder why. A woman like her end up being a perfect natural submissive.
It's because He relieves her of caring for herself. Now don't confuse this with actually breaking her to the point that she don't care for herself.
She cannot, will not, and should not not prioritize Him. She shouldn't have a shadow of a doubt that He prioritize her.
He may cum first but she COMES first.
It is His responsibly to care for her, more than she ever cared for herself. She needs to see it, feel it, and confident in it.
She needs to be 200% confident that He will not take advantage of her vulnerability and that He will not let her come to any harm.
She able to submit to Him completely because she does not feel second and not have to worry about taking care of herself.
If He fails that responsibly, or for one minute He put her in a position she feels the need to look after herself because He not then she can't fully surrender.
That means Him staying up all fucking night because He seen signs she going to subdrop before she falls asleep and wakes up in the middle of the night. He needs to be there and ready to care for her.
Also means when you play out fantasy of her being tied up and leaving her in a room ready to be used by Him. He wants to be sitting right outside the door holding a baby monitor linked to one right behind her out of her sight listening for signs of distress or discomfort.
It means He don't get to pick and choose when He there for her.
Though day?
Stressed?
Tired?
Distracted?
She. COMES. First.
Consistently.
Even if the best He can do is sit down and ask her to recount her tasks for the day- the successes , failures and how she felt doing them, and hopping like Hell there's no need for correction or punishment. He knows it doesn't matter how tired He is. It will be addressed or if it can't be that there will be a big discussion about it. It's also Himself a firm talking to when He hears those thoughts and sees the ego and selfishness coming back.
Means consistently putting her and our relationship first.
Means He just as present and focused on her tasks as she is, even the simple ones.
For example she writing and He's reading a book or working on the computer but actually He is counting the number of times she stops and rubs her wrists and stretches and noting facial expressions.
For example she's naked and humping His leg while He's fully clothed. He inspects her and verbally degrades her afterwards. But He's noting any skin irritation and the type of material He was wearing.
Means picking out her clothes each Day.
Being her Dominant isn't about Him, it's about her.
Just like being a submissive isn't about her, it's about Him.
Every single thing He does He gets back tenfold, twentyfold, a thousandfold.
He wants her to look at him with respect and adoration. He wants her to be the woman who uses all the energy she has left to simply request worshipping Him. He wants her to run into His arms as soon has He gets home, even if He was gone five fucking minutes and there no reason for her to missed Him that much.
He wants the love letters she writes Him every day, without ever meaning to repeat herself. Always having something new about Him to write and admiration.
He wants her favorite bedtime stories to be about Him even if it's boring in His view.
His girl she smart but He wants her to come to Him when she has problems.
His girl she the kindest but He wants her to ask advice from Him.
His girl is a worrier who faces her battles head on and dears her demons to do their worst but He wants her to come running to Him and wrap herself around His leg. Because her favorite character died her book or thunderstorm made her jump or she woke up and he wasn't there.
His girl independent she has felt she she takes care of herself for longer than she cares to remember. He wants her to relie on Him to message her to remind her to eat, to do her hair, to shave, to dress her.
He wants the girl who put so many walls up with everyone else. Who respond to stress with a need to be broken down and torn apart because she knows He will build her back up piece by piece and stronger than before.
And yes He wants insatiable slut. His filthy little bitch in heat who can be used for hours and still roll over and hump against his thigh. Who works herself ragged and volunteers comes home to him watching porn and get's on her knees and opens her mouth without word.0
First step in training her to be perfect submissive is allowing her to become perfect submissive and the only way to do that is to relive her of the burden of caring and worrying about herself and her own needs.
If you can't do that for her then she can't properly let go and submit.
This is what really makes different from vanilla couples, there no room for selfishness or ego. He puts her first and she puts Him first. It's the only way needs are met.
If it seems like to much work or your to selfish or lazy or lack the time or energy your not ready for the responsibly. Then your not ready for the reality not ready to be a Dominant.
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