D/s commitment

D/s relationship is the most sacred commitment
that two people can make to one another.
A commitment of choice deliberate sacrifice.
Of both becoming one
       One=unity
       Unity=a singularity
It takes two strong individuals to rise above themselves.
Dominant sacrifice is to create maintain a safe, loving,
supportive structure for the relationship.
The Dominant needs are equally with the submissive,
The Dominant has honor of owning. Dominant rises
above his own self centered desires to create, maintain
this entity.
       Entity=D/s union
Submissive sacrifice willing in choice yield to this structure
in respect, trust and support. Submissive seeks out needs
of the Dominant. Prioritize to meet. Submissive speaks clearly
for Dominant. So the Dominant in corporate into the union.
Just like the Dominant rise above own self centered desires
to support their union.
Structure does not look like any one thing. It is what the two
individuals the two people that it combines. It dynamic in
the structure. That is the ultimate freedom for both. It's greater
than some parts.
Marriage takes commitment in front of a group. D/s is higher
than that. D/s is sacred commitment between two very strong
individuals.

Naming your sub

sub, pet, little, princess, kitten, cat.

It doesn't matter what you call your
submissive it's how you feel. How
you see her. It could be how she acts.
Or the way she dresses. It is the way
you see her not anyone else.

What vanilla can't understand

   The non kinky types don't understand and can't understand
Is what a submissive craves the pain, donation, the attention
and the release.
   A submissive carry around and thinks so much. So it's
inportant to have his dominance to have this release.
   A submissive​ is always fighting, physically and mentally.
This is how find a way to let go and feel safe.
   The Dominant job so inportant. Who he Dominant pushes
the Dominant pushes the submissive to the breaking point.
The point is the release and can't hold back anymore and
let's go of everything. Wants she lets go the submissive
feels lighter and everything will seem unimportant.
   This can give her challenge but most of all gives her
structure and the discipline she craves.

D/s relationship

   D/s relationship is not based on sex or kink, many think it is,
but it's not. It is based on agreed power exchanged.
   The roles are more defind then a vanilla relationship, but it's
more then that. It is about connection between two people in a
manner they communicate it could be a bedroom or outside the
bedroom or both.
   It takes a lot time spending, nurturing and building a bond between
the Dominant​ and the submissive.
   A Dominant has many responsibilities physical and mental well-being​
of the submissive, which involves going deep in the submissive mind
peeling away insecurities and rebuilding with strength.
  A D/s relationship requires levels of trust for beyond traditional
relationship. Trust is a delicate element. Yes trust is a part of any
relationship, but in a D/s relationship it sometimes involves extra
mental and physical risks. The submissive needs to feel safe if
they are to fully release. This requires structure and routine with tasks
which involves evolution and self-discipline.
   There are defined rules, but it is a free choice for those involved in the
relationship. It could be based on the depth of the bond between the D/s
and nature in which they choose to live.
   There are many elements it may include torment, bondage, pain,
discipline, degrading, humiliation, some class has taboo, guidance and
ect, but not necessary in a D/s relationship.
   Kink are not domain of BDSM practitioners they can freely enjoy it if
they like. BDSM on the other hand includes sadism and masochism in
the tittle, but D/s element does not demand participation is painful.
   A D/s lifestyle sometimes in play can be cruelty or abuse with the 
perception of the dark side. BDSM  seems to confuse a lot of people.
   We all have enjoyed sin one time or another, but don't believe all
Images you see is based off of a D/s relationship.


Sex and kink are not the heart of D/s relationship.

Being owned

   There many definitions out there. I don't think in those terms,
In regard to D/s relationship the
O=Owned
The O in the D/s relationship means you are taken. You are His and
He is yours not the others.
   In D/s relationship owning a submissive​, it's​ like owning a property
But the submissive is the property. The things that belongs to the
submissive belongs to the Dominant also. So when you own something
you decide what you want to do with it. Do you want to share? Or give it
away? You take good care of what you own.
   The Dominant don't take these things lightly. It is a tremendous
responsibility for the Dominant.
   Choosing to give power having control over is not a simple and
easy task, and at times it is the easiest. I know that being yours
means (because you feel it and know it) you are completely devoted.
Everything the Dominant decides it comes from devotion.
   Being own you are the most cherished possessions. Being owned
allows you the freedom being devoid at times at decision making. You
need to accept the decision made. Dose it mean you can't have a decussion
about it. No it don't.
   Submission is a gift should always be cherished.

Knowing a Dominant

   I frequently run into Dom's that say
"You must call me Sir " or " you will obey me"
This is not dominance and it is not something
That someone command of a submissive.
Submission is earned, just like respect.

   Dominance is accepting and guiding the
submissive. Helping the submissive over
come their fears, helping a submissive grow
And nurturing her fears.


   A Dominant is understanding of physical,
emotional and mental. A Dominant has the ability
offer comfort and security during times of need
without compassion you are not a Dominant but
sadist.

   Dominant should act courtesy and respect.
Should avoid act rude, crude In their actions.

   Dominant should poise and have the ability
to charge in any situation.

   A Dominant should be able to bring calming
Influence, under any pressure in any stressful
situation.

   A Dominant dosnt put his needs above the
submissive.

   A Dominant should display loyalty and
unending devotion to the submissive.

   Dominant are patient it's the key to their
growth and success in their submissive.
Dominant should invest time and not get
frustrated with their submissive.

   A Dominant needs to be responsible, in
control of their actions and accepting of
results of their actions. They should apologize
for their mistake.

   Dominant should be respectful at all times
to his pears and His submissive. A Dominant
should also maintain a high level of self-respect.

   A Dominant is only good to serve their submissive,
by consenusally applying their natural dominance
over the situation and their submissive.

   This is the way a Dominant should be. This is a
Dominant open hand, willing to guide nature and
aid, not Dominant you call Sir or to obey. That is
Earned.

Effective punishment ideas

Some effective punishment ideas

1) Self administration- like a hair brush it's effective and hurts like the devil.

2) lines- keep a notebook and have the sub write x number of times sub infraction.
               Examples
                  I worried my Daddy/Sir/Master
                  I Failed to check in when I'm home late 

3) Corner time- have to he sub kneel in a corner

Good rules to start with

   Don't dump all rules on the sub at once.
One a week or maybe two if the gets the 
hang of it.


Good rules start with 
1) Good morning/ Good night greetings
2) clothing approvals ( Have sub lay out 
her outfit for the next day for your approval.)
3) Panties selection
4) Meal reporting ( Letting you know what 
sub eats and when. When to eat. This can get 
Intense and good communication.)
5) Orgasm control ( Sub to ask permission)
6) Quiet time ( 30 minutes to do something
That sooths sub)

Remember to praise the sub when the sub
Remember the rules.

Many think D/s control and surrender

Many think D/s is defined has
Control and surrender
That is only one aspect.


There more to the unseen there's the planning, stability
And the guidance that provided when it seems like nothing
happening. The Dominant is planning guiding the direction,
The structure of safety.
All these these things create​ the trust and makes the Day/s
relationship meaning and satisfying.

Characteristics of a submissive and need for structure

Structure, direction and guidance are the characteristics.
The desire for someone to fill time with meaningful,
Productive things. The need for structure in my
relaxation time. The need for tasks and objectives.
   If a Dom leaves the sub all day with no mental or
Physical challenges. The sub will miss , may get bitchy.
The brain is constantly thinking, that's when structure
without it start spiral into anxiety and depression.
   Tell a submissive what to do when to do it. The
Restless energy turn it into, guid it, and turn it into
something healthy and porductive, to calm the mind.
That's when discipline comes in, when submissive
Challenges then Dominant. The Dominant care enough
To do so.

Examples of punishment for touching or having an orgasm without permission.

For those submissive that orgasm very easily:

1) Edge slowly and when it gets to the point of feeling good, STOP
2) Spank her/your clit 3 times
3) Wait one minute
4) Start edging again
5) Edge back to back 5 times in a row, then do this 3 times a day for 3 days.


For those submissive that do not orgasm very easily:

1) Edge and get to the point of orgasm
2) Stop
3) Wait 4 minutes then edge again, Do this 3 days in a row.



Note: These are just examples of edging for punishment, has always it should always be customized to fit your your Dominant and for the submissive.