BDSM 101 Basic rules of getting a sub

  Many come to this lifestyle by see photographs of kinky bondage sex, thinking that all there is to a D/s relationship, and think they can just go out and get a sub and that's it. There so much more to this lifestyle. Here is just a few things that you should know about getting a sub.

1) Are all submissive up for grabs?
No there not, either there in a relationship or not. Some might be collar and own, that means they can not be touched, they are owned by there Dominant. NO other has the right to touch them. If they are single or unowned they can choice the Dominant or play partner NO other has the right over them.
Note: There is submissive that come into this lifestyle married to full feel a need, this may become a issue down the road. so think about it before comment.

2) In an existing relationship is it ok to pursue a submissive?
Many in the D/s community are monogamous, but if you see them in a relationship respect them and move on. there may be couples out there looking for a play partner polyamorous, this may not mean you you need a sub, there are individuals that are just polyamaorous.

3) What do submissive like to be called?
Terms used such has: Princess, Kitten, Pet, Cat, Baby girl, Sub, Little girl.
These terms are used and eared by there Dominant. Submissive DO NOT want to be called this by other Dominants or others. This is a special bond by the Dominant and the submissive.

4) Do submissive like to be called or referred to has whore, slut,or cunt, ect.
No not all are into intodegradation, and to be called it by anyone else other then her Dom it is a huge disrespect to her.

5 ) Can you treat your submissive any way you choose?
No you can't. Just because they give you control dose not make them unworthy of your respect.

6) Dose Dominant men expect others to hit on their submissive?
No they don't. Some may like to show off what is His because He knows He has what they might want, but the Dominant wants their relationship to be respected. So keep your desires to your self. If your not sure the submissive in a relationship try to ask.

7) Is there anything wrong with asking a submissive to be your sub?
No but always try to get to know her first. It takes a lot of trust to be a submissive and trust is earned.

8) Is there anything wrong with asking a Dominant to be your Dom?
No but again get to know him first. you just don't hand over trust to a stranger.

9) A re all submissive alike?
No there not. There is many kinds, but each is unique.

10) Are all Dominants alike?
No They all have their own appetites, rules., but they adapt to their submissive needs and the right care for His submissive.

Note: These are just the basics guide lines and rules of the lifestyle. Just remember each person and relationship is different, unsure about something sit back to observe and learn, or err on the side of caution and respect.

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