Rewards system

I read this and thought I would share I did change it just a little bit it's not just for little's it can be for slave's and sub's to

Whether you’re a sub/slave/little without a Dom or with a Dom who has no idea how to care for a sub/slave/little  odds are you’ve at some point had trouble figuring out a point system that works! This is the one I used when I was a little and may use again when I find a little!

There are a few categories. Each category allows you to earn a certain number of points.

Sleeping:

8+ hours = 10 points

7-6 hours = 8 points

5 hours = 5 points

4 hours = 2 points

-4 = 0 points

Eating: (Note: To be considered a meal there has to be some sort of veggie, grain, and protein!)

Ate 3 meals = 10 points

Ate 2 meals = 5 points

Ate 1 meal = 2 points

Drinking Water.

8 glasses = 10 points

7-6 glasses = 8 points

5 glasses = 5 points

4 glasses = 2 points

-4 glasses = 1 point

0 glasses = 0 points

Other: (This category should be tailored to fit you individually! I’ll include mine as an example though.

Did homework = 8 points

Room was clean at the end of the day = 5 points

Showered = 1 point

Washed face twice = 3 points

Brushed teeth twice = 3 points

Exercised or danced = 3 points

Read a chapter of a book = 1 point per chapter

You’re supposed to aim for a certain number of points a day. Like, 30 points is good, but 40 points is great! If you reach that, you can cash it in for small treats, or you can go the extra mile and get 250-300 points total for the week!

Rewards:

Extra desert = 40 points

Pack of stickers = 40 points

New stuffie = 100 points

New coloring book = 100 points

New onsie/diaper/binkie= 300 points

The points for the rewards are set really high so that rewards still feel special, and you don’t have to break the bank, haha.

I hope this helps someone out there! Best wishes!
You can change the rewards to what works best for you. This is only example


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Submissive pose training

Here is some to get started with. I will do a second post. On submission posing. But this is what was given to me to learn and start from.

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Aids/HIV

You cannot get via:

• casual kissing, hugging, holding hands, touching ( no contact with body fluids) • sneezing, coughing, urine/ feces, sweating

• sharing food/ drinks

• toilet seats

• animal bites

• air, water

You can get HIV via:

• unprotected sex ( vaginal, oral, anal)

• during childbirth, breastfeeding

• blood, semen/ pre-seminal fluid, vaginal fluids, rectal fluid

• sharing injecting equipment

• contaminated blood transfusion, organ transplants



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BDSM charts

BDSM charts to help you learn and grow from.


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Types of play

Types of play this is a guide to better help you understand the BDSM lifestyle play.

Animal Role Playing -
The submissive takes on the role of an animal. Most common is probably a dog, or puppy boy / girl though horses are also popular. The ‘animal’ may imitate animal behavior, wear items such as collars, leads, bridles and so on, or carry out tasks associated with animal behavior.

Bondage -

Bondage is another umbrella term that includes any type of binding during play. Ropes, handcuffs, blindfolds, spreader bars, clamps, etc. You can also use different kinds of bondage furniture. These can be specialty pieces or the furniture you have in your own home. To try out some of the generally more expensive pieces check out your local dungeon to get an idea of what’s available. You might see some permanent structures like o-rings mounted in a beam or suspension equipment in the ceiling, larger pieces like a St. Andrew’s cross or a spanking bench or some specific pieces of furniture like medical chairs or vac beds! Make sure you do your research on the risks involved in each type of play before you try it and them discuss it with your partner.

Daddy/Mommy/Little/Age-play -

Just to be clear, littles may not necessarily be into age-play and age-players may not necessarily be littles. Littles are generally submissives who regress to a certain age (known as “little space”) and enjoy being taken care of in a parental fashion. They might like coloring, watching cartoons, being given a bath or reading a story with their partner, but this all depends on the age they regress to. Age-play includes roleplaying as a certain age and does not necessarily include age regression. You are probably most familiar with this in the form of ABDL or Adult Baby Diaper Lovers, adults who enjoy age-playing as babies, wearing diapers and roleplaying as infants. ABDL role-players may also enjoy a lactation fetish or nursing with their partner, but, again, not all age-players enjoy this.

Dominant/submissive or Master/slave -

This is a typical power play scenario that revolves around one person (the Dominant or Master) having control over certain aspects of the submissive or slave or you can even switch roles during play. Think of this as an umbrella scenario that usually includes lots of different types of play or roles.

Electrical Play -

Electric play, is the erotic practice and stimulation of the body through the use of electricity and electrical devices. There are a variety of electrical devices that can be used on different parts of the body that can generate stimulation to those who like the feeling that the electricity can provide. Electrical play can also be part of BDSM as it can be used for the application of pain onto a submissive during a scene. There is a great deal of controversy regarding electric play and what it entails and those looking to engage in this type of play should be experienced and well-informed to understand all the aspects of electric play so that it is a pleasurable and safe experience.

Flame Play -

Play which involves the use of fire in scenes. It should be noted here that using any type of fire / flame during scenes is quite dangerous and could result in permanent scarring / burning of the body. Use extreme care when using fire in scenes, as this is extremely dangerous and not to be done by a novice.

Gun Play -

Scenes involving the use of firearms. It should be noted here: Gun Play is a dangerous form of play and should not be entered into lightly. Serious consequences could occur from such play and it is not recommended, It is also considered illegal.

Humiliation Play -

Humiliation has a wide-range from being called dirty names in the privacy of your own bedroom to forced public humiliation. You can try more mild forms like wearing a plug or bondage wear under your clothes to work, going to the store together handcuffed or on a leash or involving other consenting individuals in your humiliation play by having them watch. Use your imagination and have fun!

Impact Play -

Impact play involves any type of impact to a person’s body. This might be bare handed spanking, spanking with brush or paddle, flogging, caning, etc. Impact play can be a “thud” or “sting” and doesn’t necessarily have to be painful.

Kinky Role-play -

This a general category since most people have seen these played out in the media. Kinky roleplay includes the common “Priest/Nun/Parishioner”, “Teacher/Student”, “Nurse/Doctor/Patient”, etc scenarios that are fun to play out with a kinky twist! You can have the person be a naughty schoolgirl who needs punishment, a patient in need of a “special cure”, or a parishioner who can only be absolved of sin through special tasks.

Knife Play -

Cutting the surface of the skin with sharp objects, generally a knife, for the thrill, sensation, or pain. To also create decorative scars. The same basic precautions apply as with other types of blood play. Remember to stay away from vital organ areas and genital cutting.

Medical Play -

Medical play involves a session or scene in which there are situations, objects, personnel and environments that are typically seen in the medical world and community and carried out by medical personnel such as doctors, nurses and patients of various types. Scenes can involve all sorts of medical paraphernalia and a wide variety of medical situations, depending on the desired effect of the session. Involvement in medical play usually involves interest, arousal and fetishes in medical situations and a strong attraction to medical personnel, the instruments used and the uniforms and gowns worn.

Owner/pet -

This type of scene includes one person pretending to be a type of pet (cat, dog, pony, rabbit, snake, whatever you want!) and the other person is the Owner. You can feed your pet, groom them, dress them up, have them sleep in a special pet bed or cage, etc.

Sensation Play -

Sensation play involves any play that gives a person a sensation. Some common techniques include using ice during play (on the body for short periods, putting it in your mouth, etc), playing with food like whip cream or even feeding your partner, cooling or heating toys that are capable of holding temperature, using a feather, scarf, wartenburg wheel or an e-stim toy to create fun sensations for you and your partner.

Sexual Sadism/Masochism -

Sadism is when you derive pleasure from causing someone pain and masochism is when you derive pleasure from experiencing pain. These terms get used pretty loosely, but medically they are used to describe people who rely on pain to achieve pleasure from these scenarios. It’s usually a necessary ingredient in their sexual lives. That being said it certainly is possibly to incorporate aspects of S/M in your own play through impact play, knife play, blood play, rope bondage, clamps, etc but please be aware that this type of play poses serious risks and should never be done without proper safety and emergency plans!

Table Play -

A padded table, where the submissive is restrained for play. The table has many securing points to offer different positions for play or examination. Tables can be used as racks if outfitted accordingly.

Urethral Play -

Play involving the “urethra”, the tube that runs between the bladder and the outside of the body. In men, it emerges at the end of the penis, and in women, just inside the vagina. With the exception of the very end, this tube is sterile, and anything inserted deeper than a few millimeters should be sterile as well. Note: Serious damage can occur by inserting inappropriate devices, using excessive force, or by bad technique. This form of play is extremely dangerous. Not for the novice.

Wax Play -

Wax play is self-explanatory. Find a good low-temp candle (Do NOT use normal scented candles from your local store, they will BURN you!). Emergency candles are a good low-budget option or you can find specific candles/wax in BDSM or rope stores. Prepare for a mess (you can have the person lay on a towel, mat or vinyl sheet), light your candle and let the wax melt for bit.. then have fun slowly pouring it on your partner! You can have them blindfolded, have their limbs bound, sitting or laying down, etc.

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Doming vs none Doming

So many want to express submission or eager for kinky sex.
You get a massage says I'm Master or you see kinky pictures,
on there profile thinking it's ok they are who they say they are.
Then they say call me Sir, or Master or even Daddy depending on
Who it is they are trying to be. So you think it is fun. Then they say
show me some naked pics of you.
So many of these internet Master are probably rapist, abusers or
even a group collage kids are probably sitting in there mother's
basement laughing at you.
Then they say your a fake sub because you won't send naked photos
or call them Sir.
This is a fake fake fake Dominant.
A real one knows trust is earned and knows the submissive will send
send when ready. The Dominant will not ask.
I call the fake want to be Dom beta.
Just like these want to be sub making these want to be Dom making
them think this is what a submissive is about.
I have not really ran into this problem not to they haven't tried.
I'm a natrule submissive I can spot a true Dominant and submissive out.


We all kinks but to poss has Dominant or submissive is wrong people
get hurt. Just like a submissive that came to me this weekend. At least
she knows the lifestyle.

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People get hurt in bondage

Bondage means submission handing over all control to the Dominant. You need to have total trust to be able to submit to the Dominant.
People get hurt in bondage if they don't know what they are doing. You should always do your research and learn before you try it. Bondage not for everyone just like sex toys are not for everyone. this is why Dominant and submissive do contracts to learn each other limits I will go more into this later.
Bondage needs to be mutual consent. It should be that away before getting into any kind of BDSM scene.

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A good Dom

A good Dominant will take care of his submissive . The submissive is the jewel. The Dominant will protect, care, respect the submissive. This is one of the safest relationship anyone can be in.
By nature Dominants are possessive of what is His.
The submissive holds all power.
A submissive is not slave. A slave is someone that all things because the slave no choice, no rights and no limits. In one way or another they are a property of a Master. But a submissive is very different a submissive can choose to leave the relationship at any time.
Many sub/slave are not aloud to address another Master has Sir
Many submissive like handing all control just like slave but know the difference between the two.


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The BDSM Eblem

The BDSM Eblem I see it most has blue and black.

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Your perfect

Your perfect the Dominant says until the submissive submits and gives everything and then everything changes.
The Dominant try to change and reshape the submissive into something the submissive is not.
It is good for a Dominant challenge and encourage the best in a submissive. But to transform the submissive into another person is not is wrong and can be abusive.
Every individual is different in her or his own way it goes same way for Dominants and submissives. This part of life it what makes us who we are.
So don't try and change a submissive or Dominant just let us be who we are.
If we love high heels then let the submissive love them it's part of who the submissive is

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Relationship in BDSM

Question asked what is the relationship types?

Relationship in BDSM lifestyle come in many forms. They can be kingdoms, family ( but BDSM is also one big family ) but has mean family there more then two in the relationship.
It could be relationship by phone, email, or other message forms, it could be also by marriage.
Or it can be just someone who guide you ( no sex involved )
Being a Dominant there is so many forms they come in.
They can want complete control in everything. Just like a submissive might want to hand over complete control of everything. Submissive come in many forms also we all have different tastes.

I hope this helps your question

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Meanings in BDSM

B&D, B/D or BD = Bondage and Displan
D&s, D/s or D's = Dominant and submissive
s&m, s/m or SM = sadism and masochism
Dominant= Top, Master, Sir, Daddy, or Dom
Misstress, ma'am these are all the names they go by that control the relationship
Submissive = bottom, slave, baby girl, kitten, cat, pet ect these are names of who summit to the Dominant in the relationship.
Sometimes the Dominant might name the submissive something else that fits better for them and how the Dominant sees the submissive.

Note
I will add to this list has I go.


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When giving a Spanking

Here is some valuable information that help. Never forget the after care in any play you do.

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S.S.C

S.S.C is a great program in BDSM and a great group. This is what it's about it is to help so things to go to far and no one gets hurt.


S.S.C means  safe sane consensual it is playing safe and living safe and it means no parties are under 18.
It means no still means no.
It means no parties are to drunk or high otherwise means intoxicated or to rational to make decisions.
It means your well educated about all dangerous activities.
It means clinical instability.
It means there first aid kit/medical care near by.
It means if someone gagged or otherwise unable to verbally withdraw consent , that there will be other ways established.
It means understanding after consent is withdrawn is not like abuse. It is abuse it is illegal it is assult and or rape.
It means no minors or non consenting or exposed to sexual behaviors.
It means submissive has fallen so far into subspace that she can't say her name.
It means know your health status and your partners.
It means safe word never off limits.
It means environment no parties are afraid to speak up.


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Rope Dictionary

This has some really good information hope you enjoy this post I seen to his and knew had to share it with you all

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Shitty sub/slaves and Dom/Master's

Here the thing it can go either way from fake sub's/slaves and Dom/Master's ext.
Like I said before this lifestyle is not like you see in photos or read about in books like fifty shades you are wrong if you think it is.
Many claim to be and say I'm a submissive or I'm a Master I hear this so many times and stories about this with others I share this lifestyle with.
                    I took a sub she was all fine until I gave her a task.
                    She vanished.
                    Or
                    There one I gave her a task she complained about
                    it and wouldn't do it.
Being a sub you have the need to want to please Him and do things for Him and always finding ways to make Him happy you wouldn't question His task you would want to do it, and show Him that did.
So many get hurt because someone try playing sub or Master just to get quick sex thanking that is what this is about, and that it is all fun and games. Until someone gets raped, beaten because the submissive wasn't real and didn't know what she was doing and what she was in for. It happens way to much. Or the submissive ends up with something broken because the Master was fake and didn't know what he was doing this happens to.
Oh yeah then get these kinds of people oh your just a sex toy nothing more. Words hurt not just the Dominant or submissive.
Then get the players this can go both ways
Then you get the abusers their actually play the game with the submissive or Dominant they have hatered will not actually comment but play head games with you.
Then you get pain slut they don't really give care what you do to her and she doesn't really have feelings for you she just in it for the game and blames it on excuses.
Now we have the real and rare true submissive and Dominants they both been through a lot in life both have issues in some way and they both are fighters in one way or another.
The Dominant know what he once in life and is huge success in life but fights for his submissive success has well and rebuilds His submissive it is puzzle made just for Him to build greater success that craves.
Submissive always giving and fight just to keep going and build up walls to protect herself from everyone around her. This is what bring these two together they match made in heaven.

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101 BDSM Basics

Many come to this lifestyle because of photographs of kinky sex and thinking that this is what BDSM lifestyle is you are wrong all those photos are is just kinky sex nothing more.
BDSM is about control and D/s relationship  most think all they need to do is go out and find a Dominant or submissive and then there you go wrong again. There is more behind it so much more. Here is a few things you should know.

1) Are submissive girls all up for grabs? No they are not they are either in a relationship or not. Some maybe collar and owned this means they can not be touched and that they are with a Dominant and no other has rights to the submissive. If they are unowned or single then she can choose to and has rights. If you are unsure if she is owned or in a relationship approach carefully she may have rules she has to follow.
(Some submissive come into this lifestyle married to full feel a need this may become an issue down the road in this lifestyle so really think about it before you comment)

2) Is an existing relationship is no inpediment for pursuing a submissive girl? Many in D/s community are monogamous if you see they are in a relationship respect them and move on there maybe couples out there looking for a play partner who are polyamorous this may not mean you need a sub. There is some individuals that are just ployamorous.

3) What do submissive girls like to be called? Terms used such has: princess, kitten, pet, cat, babygirl, sub, little girl, These terms are used and earned by the Dominant. Submissive don't like to be called this by others this is a special bond by the Dominant and submissive.

4) Do submissive like to be called or referred to has a whore, slut or cunt ect? Not all do, many are not into into degradation and to be called it by anyone else but her Dom. It is a huge disrespect to her.

5) Can you treat your submissive girl any way you choose? No you can't just because they give up control does not make them unworthy of your respect.

6) Dose a Dominant men expect others hit on their submissive? No they don't. Some may like to show off their submissive off what is His because others may want but the Dominant wants their relationship to be respected. So keep your desires to yourself. Not sure the submissive is in a relationship try asking with respect.

7) Is there anything wrong with asking a submissive girl to be your submissive? No, but you should always try getting to know her first. And make sure they are not in a relationship first. It takes a lot to trust. And a submissive trust is earned.

8) Is there anything wrong with asking a Dominant to be your Dom? No but again get to know him first and make sure they are not in a relationship. Don't ever had trust over to a stranger.

9) Are submissive all a like? No they are not. They may all be in BDSM but each one is unique.

10) Are all Dominants a like? No they are not. They all have their own appetites, rules but they adapt to their submissive needs and the right care for His submissive.



These are the basics guide lines and rules of the lifestyle. Just remember that each person and relationship is different unsure set back and watch and observe and learn don't bother a couple because you think you got a chance have some respect for yourself has well has the couple.


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Real life D/s

We love each other so much we can't live without each other.
Being apart puts a big ack in our souls.

We had good and bad times together.
The love and trust we have gets us throw the decisions life puts at us.

When there struggle we struggle together.
When we love we love together.
We communicate together has one.
We connect on level that one else can share.

My Sir is my hero.
He feels it.
He my home.
My safe place.
And I know it now more now than anything.

He owns me
I know it I feel it.

When we disgree we talk it out we don't argue about it.
And, if Sir thinks I need a punishment to fix my miss behavior I except my puishment without argument.
Because I know Sir is teaching me a lesson.

I am His and Sir knows it.
He is my safe place and He knows it.
He is my rock and He knows it.
He is the keeper of my heart and soul 
He knows it.

We feel each other needs.

I love Him and He knows it.

He doesn't punish me because He hates me.
He does it because He loves me.

He pushes me to success.
Because He loves me.

Our relationship is love, soul connection, rough, kindness, harshness, but most of all full of love and understanding of each other.

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Communication

Communication is very important in any relationship. In our relationship is by using different techniques, being mindful of different things.
Why is communication inportant?
It is one of the ways we bond and connect with one another. It's how we understand each other, each other views, beliefs, it's one of the things we value the most.
It what you want to develop in a relationship spend lots of time with. It also helps to understand, accepted, and appreciated. We all need this in a relationship.
The more you communicate and understand one another the stronger the relationship will be.

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Types

There are two types of spankings Discipline and Erotic.
Spankings can be for discipline or for fun. For discipline I mean discipline not breathless where " please spank me Sir" it should never be for fun it will encourage bad behavior.
Discipline is used to grow and flourish a submissive and depend on them to always be there.
Yes us submissive like to test our Dom often. We enjoy toeing the line.
As a submissive there is comfort and security in knowing there consequences for any behavior. They are unchanging and they are subject to the Dominant moods or whimsy, pouting, temer tantrums. If the submissive truly knows she did wrong, they will hurt, at enough to deter us from misbehaving like that again.
This is how a submissive knows perimeters, this is how a submissive learns what is and not acceptable. This is how Dom shows what he wants for me to see and exprence in order to grow has a submissive.



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Kneeling is form of respect

Kneeling it is respect for your Master. It is giving him your submission also.

The feeling when He looks at you, to see pride in His eyes it is a rush from inside you comes from way deep inside flooding to the surface.
It's a overwhelming emotion to know waiting for me every time to kneel in front of Him to give and show my submission and give myself to Him.
There are many times, many ways daily makes sure know I'm loved, wanted, and needed. I show the same in return but when I'm there Kneeling, quiet and staying very still it is me giving myself to my Dom. Wanting to show, have Him see all the feelings, see I'm completely His. It all belongs to Him.

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What's it like

Do you fancy of a woman, who is so far in subspace she will agree to do anything for you?
A woman who has PTSD and is triggered by blood and knife play but so lost in her devotion and subservience to you she would do it anyway?
Are you strong enough and dedicated enough to her to understand that state is more powerful to her than any drugs or alcohol and decide on her behalf she can no longer consent?
Do you care enough not to abuse that power?

If you answer no - you lose all rights to call yourself her protector.


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Frist step in training her.

First step in training her to be perfect submissive is allowing her to be perfect submissive, and only way to do that is to relieve her of the burden of caring and worrying about herself and her own needs. If you can't do that for her then. She can't property let go and submit.
This is what really makes difference between vanilla couples. There is no room for selfishness or ego He puts her first and she puts Him first. It's really the only way needs are met.
If it seems like too much work or your to selfish or lazy or lack the will or lack the time or energy your not ready for this lifestyle and the responsibility. Then your not ready for reality not ready to be a Dominant or submissive.

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So you think your a Dominant

Your sub is a warrior, she the most strongest, smartest, kindest, intelligent, generous, rarest and most independent person you know.
She not without flaws and weakness. Look around her life and outside your relationship. You will wounder, why a woman like her ends up being a perfect natrule submissive and still trust you.
It's because He cannot, will not and should not prioritizee relieves her of caring for herself. Now don't confuse this with breaking her to the point that she will not care about herself.
S Him. He priority is her. She should have no doubts that she is His main priority.
He may cum first but she COMES first.
It is His responsibility to care for her more then she's ever cared for herself. She needs to see it, feel it, and be confident in it.
She needs to be 200% confident that, He will not take advantage of her vulnerability and that He will not let her come to any harm.
She able to submit to Him completely because she does not feel second and not have to worry about taking care of herself.
If He fails that responsibility, or for one moment He put her in a position she feels the need to look after herself because He not then she cannot fully surrender.
If that means staying up all night because you see signs of of sub drop before she falls asleep and she wakes up in the middle of the night He needs to be there and ready to take care of her.
It means when you play out a scene of her being tied up and leaving her in a room ready to be used by Him. You want to be sitting right outside that door with a monitor  linked to one behind her that she cannot see, listening to signs of distress and discomfort.
It means He doesn't get to pick or choose when he there for her.
Tough day?
Stressed?
Tired?
Distracted?
She. Comes. First. Consistently.
Even if the best He can do is sit down and ask her to recount her tasks for the day the successes and failures and how she felt doing them and hoping like Hell there's no need for correction or punishment He knows it doesn't matter how tired He is it will be addressed or if it can't be that there will be a big discussion about it. It's also giving Himself a firm talking to when He hears those thoughts and sees the ego and selfishness coming back.
Means consistently putting her and our relationship first.
Means He just as present and focused on her tasks as she is, Even the simple ones.
For example she writing and you are working on your computer but actually you are counting the number of times she stops and rubs her wrists or stretches and noting her facial expressions.
For example she naked and dry humping your leg while He's fully clothed. He inspects her and verbally degrades her afterwards but He is noting any skin irritation and the type of material He was wearing.
Picking out her clothes each day.
Being her Dominant isn't about Him it's about her. Just like for her being for her being His submissive isn't about her it's about Him
Every single thing He puts in He gets back ten times twenty times thousand times
He wants her to look at Him with respect and adoration. He wants her to be the woman who uses all the energy she has left to worship Him.
He wants her to run into His arms as soon has He gets home, even if He's gone five minutes and there no reason for her to miss Him that much.
He wants the letters she writes Him every day, without ever managing to repeat herself. Always having something new about Him to write praise and admiration.
He wants Her favorite bedtime stories to be about Him even if it's boring in His view.
Smartest: He wants her to come to Him when she has problems.
Kindest: He wants her to ask advice from Him.
Warrior: Who faces her battles head on and dares her demons to do their worst to come running to Him. Even if it's her favorite  book character died or thunderstorm made her jump or she woke up and he wasn't there.
Independent: Who has felt, she has taken care of herself for longer than she remembers.
He wants her to relie on Him to take care massage her, to remind her to eat, to do her hair, to shave her, to dress her.
He wants the girl that put up so many walls up with everyone else, who respond to stress with need to be broken down and torn apart because she knows He will build her back up piece by piece and stronger than before.
And yes he wants insatiable slut. His filthy little bitch in heat who can be used for hours and still roll over and hump against His thigh. Who works herself ragged and volunteers, and comes home to Him watching porn and gets on her knees and opens her mouth without word.

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I have rewritten and updated this writing post from my old one

Understanding D/s relationship

A submissive obeys her Dominant in all things. A submissive dose not question His orders. She does not want to dispoint Him in anyway. A good and well trained submissive that's true at heart has this need and craving to make Him happy and to please Him in all things.

A submissive represent her Dominant in the way she talks, dresses, post on her social media accounts and everything she does.

He may say no to her, it may be out of safety for her or something she may not need right now. She in return she should respect the decision He has made without question.

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Subspace

Subspace is a term used in D/s relationships it is a high to a submissive, it's a feeling a submissive gets during a scene a place she goes, kinda of like living this world, it's like when get involved in a book and you go to that world. It's like that but has submissive it cosed by exprence of intense pain, and/or pleasure. It's a trigger of the nervous system- wide response with a release of chemicals including endorphins, enkephalins, and epinephrine from different areas of your brain. It's your body natural pain killers. That when our body survival instincts kick in.
What goes up must come down the feeling don't last. Our body stops producing those chemicals that made this high usually just as or even more suddenly has it started producing them.
The tingling, buzzing and the grogginess like maybe a drunk feeling will replace the high has you gradually get your coordination, and get your very consciousness, back in your control. This is usually felt almost felt imediately, and quite normal. It's nearly physical inpossible to prevent from happening. This is the physical side to sub drop.

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Trespassing on another Dominant

This happens way to to much. Another Dominant aproching another Dominant submissive.
This is so wrong and very disrespectful. For both Dominant and submissive. Not only disrespectful but she could be under rules and maybe even training or maybe things about her that you may not understand. But the Dominant does and knows what she needs.

And a submissive shouldn't be friends with other Dominants/Master that is also disrespect to the Dominants. If she once to be friends with one she should have permission from her Dominant and if he has submissive ok it with her well. It saves issues down the road. If she unowned she wait it will save issue when she does become owned.


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Collar not adornment

A collar not adornment. It is something more.
It's a symbol of comment To her Dominant.
It shows she is own to the Dominant. It shows
she is she cared for by a Dominant, and how in
Intouch He is with his submissive.
The collar should fit who she is, to match the
personality He sees in her. It's something he
carefully chosen for her. Something that's just
for her and no other woman.
When you wear His collar you will know damn
well who you belong to. This is why a submissive
should NEVER wear a collar unless own by a
Dominant. You will never regret it when you wear
His collar and own by a Dominant. I for one don't.
I would never change any of it.


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A Master always has reason

Why does Master do that? Why does Master say that? Why does he say no?
Well it all comes down to a Dominant always has his resones. A Dominant should never be questioned. They may do things out of your safety or maybe help you grow and learn. You has the submissive should always do has your told and when your told, never put it off. That may hurt a Dominant when you put things off. It may show you don't care enough to obey and it shows your not being a true submissive. Doing what your told when Dominant says it pleases the Dominant in return your both happy.

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Most asked questions answered

These are some of the most asked questions I receive.


1) what do you thoughts on collars? It's like a wedding ring and being married. Being collared is a private and motional moment between the Dominant and submissive. It is a symbol of ownership and comment. Some wear necklace or anklet, bracelet in the day. Is necessary? No it's not. Do I love it?  Yes I do

Note a submissive should not wear a collar just for show, it ruins the meaning of being collared. It should only be worn if you are truly owned and collared by a Dominant. It is something a sub is proud of. It not something to be taken lightly.

2) What is your favorite non sexual act of Dominant partner does to you? Being at his feet, laying wrapped up in his arms and just talking.

3) What is your favorite D/s activity that would not be considered sexual? Kneeling at his feet. It is very intimate and very much needed in this lifestyle.

4) If you could give only one piece of advice to a new submissive, what would it be? Being patient and learn not all Dom's are a like. You can't just jump into this lifestyle.

5) Dose romance have a place in Dom/sub relationship? Yes it does



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Can you punish a Dominant

When a Master does something wrong, there is consequences,
But it's not for the submissive to punish Him. He the Dominant
judges himself, I'm not any less His sub. I make it clear and we
discuss it. He always takes the time to talk with me. When I'm
sad because of him, He hates that, so He will stop and talk to
me. That makes him a good Dominant.
Bottom line Dominant is accountable for His actions. He correct
it himself that makes Him a good Dominant.

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Disrespect

This is example of disrespect and not having trust.

Master says kneel.
The sub around out the window and around her why on her knees. This is huge disrespect to the Master.
A Master should never put you at harms way. They charish the gift of submission and they do, it's a gift that they are very protective of.
If you can't kneel for your Dom without looking around then you don't trust your Dom and your not ready to submit to your Dom, or maybe he is the wrong Dom for you.
You should be able to do anything or everything for your Dom without question or worry.


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