So you think your a Dominant

Your sub is a warrior, she the most strongest, smartest, kindest, intelligent, generous, rarest and most independent person you know.
She not without flaws and weakness. Look around her life and outside your relationship. You will wounder, why a woman like her ends up being a perfect natrule submissive and still trust you.
It's because He cannot, will not and should not prioritizee relieves her of caring for herself. Now don't confuse this with breaking her to the point that she will not care about herself.
S Him. He priority is her. She should have no doubts that she is His main priority.
He may cum first but she COMES first.
It is His responsibility to care for her more then she's ever cared for herself. She needs to see it, feel it, and be confident in it.
She needs to be 200% confident that, He will not take advantage of her vulnerability and that He will not let her come to any harm.
She able to submit to Him completely because she does not feel second and not have to worry about taking care of herself.
If He fails that responsibility, or for one moment He put her in a position she feels the need to look after herself because He not then she cannot fully surrender.
If that means staying up all night because you see signs of of sub drop before she falls asleep and she wakes up in the middle of the night He needs to be there and ready to take care of her.
It means when you play out a scene of her being tied up and leaving her in a room ready to be used by Him. You want to be sitting right outside that door with a monitor  linked to one behind her that she cannot see, listening to signs of distress and discomfort.
It means He doesn't get to pick or choose when he there for her.
Tough day?
Stressed?
Tired?
Distracted?
She. Comes. First. Consistently.
Even if the best He can do is sit down and ask her to recount her tasks for the day the successes and failures and how she felt doing them and hoping like Hell there's no need for correction or punishment He knows it doesn't matter how tired He is it will be addressed or if it can't be that there will be a big discussion about it. It's also giving Himself a firm talking to when He hears those thoughts and sees the ego and selfishness coming back.
Means consistently putting her and our relationship first.
Means He just as present and focused on her tasks as she is, Even the simple ones.
For example she writing and you are working on your computer but actually you are counting the number of times she stops and rubs her wrists or stretches and noting her facial expressions.
For example she naked and dry humping your leg while He's fully clothed. He inspects her and verbally degrades her afterwards but He is noting any skin irritation and the type of material He was wearing.
Picking out her clothes each day.
Being her Dominant isn't about Him it's about her. Just like for her being for her being His submissive isn't about her it's about Him
Every single thing He puts in He gets back ten times twenty times thousand times
He wants her to look at Him with respect and adoration. He wants her to be the woman who uses all the energy she has left to worship Him.
He wants her to run into His arms as soon has He gets home, even if He's gone five minutes and there no reason for her to miss Him that much.
He wants the letters she writes Him every day, without ever managing to repeat herself. Always having something new about Him to write praise and admiration.
He wants Her favorite bedtime stories to be about Him even if it's boring in His view.
Smartest: He wants her to come to Him when she has problems.
Kindest: He wants her to ask advice from Him.
Warrior: Who faces her battles head on and dares her demons to do their worst to come running to Him. Even if it's her favorite  book character died or thunderstorm made her jump or she woke up and he wasn't there.
Independent: Who has felt, she has taken care of herself for longer than she remembers.
He wants her to relie on Him to take care massage her, to remind her to eat, to do her hair, to shave her, to dress her.
He wants the girl that put up so many walls up with everyone else, who respond to stress with need to be broken down and torn apart because she knows He will build her back up piece by piece and stronger than before.
And yes he wants insatiable slut. His filthy little bitch in heat who can be used for hours and still roll over and hump against His thigh. Who works herself ragged and volunteers, and comes home to Him watching porn and gets on her knees and opens her mouth without word.

© Dom to sub love

I have rewritten and updated this writing post from my old one