Many come to this lifestyle because of photographs of kinky sex and thinking that this is what BDSM lifestyle is you are wrong all those photos are is just kinky sex nothing more.
BDSM is about control and D/s relationship most think all they need to do is go out and find a Dominant or submissive and then there you go wrong again. There is more behind it so much more. Here is a few things you should know.
1) Are submissive girls all up for grabs? No they are not they are either in a relationship or not. Some maybe collar and owned this means they can not be touched and that they are with a Dominant and no other has rights to the submissive. If they are unowned or single then she can choose to and has rights. If you are unsure if she is owned or in a relationship approach carefully she may have rules she has to follow.
(Some submissive come into this lifestyle married to full feel a need this may become an issue down the road in this lifestyle so really think about it before you comment)
2) Is an existing relationship is no inpediment for pursuing a submissive girl? Many in D/s community are monogamous if you see they are in a relationship respect them and move on there maybe couples out there looking for a play partner who are polyamorous this may not mean you need a sub. There is some individuals that are just ployamorous.
3) What do submissive girls like to be called? Terms used such has: princess, kitten, pet, cat, babygirl, sub, little girl, These terms are used and earned by the Dominant. Submissive don't like to be called this by others this is a special bond by the Dominant and submissive.
4) Do submissive like to be called or referred to has a whore, slut or cunt ect? Not all do, many are not into into degradation and to be called it by anyone else but her Dom. It is a huge disrespect to her.
5) Can you treat your submissive girl any way you choose? No you can't just because they give up control does not make them unworthy of your respect.
6) Dose a Dominant men expect others hit on their submissive? No they don't. Some may like to show off their submissive off what is His because others may want but the Dominant wants their relationship to be respected. So keep your desires to yourself. Not sure the submissive is in a relationship try asking with respect.
7) Is there anything wrong with asking a submissive girl to be your submissive? No, but you should always try getting to know her first. And make sure they are not in a relationship first. It takes a lot to trust. And a submissive trust is earned.
8) Is there anything wrong with asking a Dominant to be your Dom? No but again get to know him first and make sure they are not in a relationship. Don't ever had trust over to a stranger.
9) Are submissive all a like? No they are not. They may all be in BDSM but each one is unique.
10) Are all Dominants a like? No they are not. They all have their own appetites, rules but they adapt to their submissive needs and the right care for His submissive.
These are the basics guide lines and rules of the lifestyle. Just remember that each person and relationship is different unsure set back and watch and observe and learn don't bother a couple because you think you got a chance have some respect for yourself has well has the couple.
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