Obedience part 2

   Something a submissive never should do is take control away from the Dominant, even if it's a little piece. The power of control is a gift to the Dominant.
   Taking away this control is selfish it is something the Dominant needs. It is Dominant altimate​ need, take that into consideration next time you want to disobey your Dominant.
   Another way to look at it, this need in a submissive is the need to hand over control. Control and submit. What if your Dominant didn't take your submission in consideration?
   A Dominant rather make his submissive happy then punish the submissive. It breaks the Dominant heart and then punish the submissive. It breaks the Dominant heart and then consider. Dose the submissive really want this? Is the submissive really a submissive? The submissive isn't following orders what will submissive do in a long term?
   Meaning of obedience is complying with commands, orders or instructions of one authority. Obedience is not given without form of trust.
   Entering D/s relationship trust is earned and built upon. The submissive trust the Dominant to guide her please her, to take care of her, to help her grow. So do the expectation , sometimes it will take you out of your comfort zone. Rules will be created. The submissive is expected to follow those rules.
   Sometimes a submissive will not like or understand a rule or command but however this is part of trust and exchange of power in a D/s relationship. The submissive needs to trust the Dominant enough to allow Him this power to control her. In return submissive gives him obedience this is the vital piece.
   A Dominant relationship is a choice, also based on needs of Dominant and submissive. Dominant needs control and to give pleasure. Submissive needs to yield control and give pleasure. Dominant and submissive are both give pleasure, only in different ways. Without obedience this would be a battle.
   A submissive needs to trust her Dominant enough to understand that. The Dominant ultimately giving her what she needs. The Dominant challenges the submissive in order to truly give her what she needs. The submissive needs to put aside, fears, selfishness, wholly trust and give the Dominant what he needs.
   By giving up selfishness, following the rules and meeting expectation this is obedices and you are giving the Dominant respect and most of all TRUST.
   Submissive deepest desire and need is to please her Dominant the one she trust. Without obedience it's not fully submission and to please the Dominant. You need to fully submit let everything down, every sadness, hurt and pain.
   You let down your Dominant you can't fully submit, you will hurt it's sadness and frustration.
And a true Dominant will punish you for the lack of obedience on the submissive part.
   Then begins to tear apart foundation the needs of the D/s relationship that was built. The exchange of power is being challenged.
   Without obedience is breaking the contract. Means the submissive choosing what rules to follow and take away from the authority of the Dominant. The gift the submissive gave to Dominant.
   The Dominant is left to wonder what rules are valid or kept. It puts Dominant sense of authority and faith on shaky ground. A submissive must recognize this. The disobedience is a result of losing trust in the submissive. Dominant will question the motives and commitment and desires of the D/s relationship.
   A true submissive desires to have a true and meaningful D/s relationship. Submissive must completely submit and demonstrate trust in the Dominant. The submissive needs to leave behind selfishness, ego and humility aside. If can't do this you can't truly be a submissive. You will only end up hurting the Dominant and probably yourself.