What is a true submission

very old post that got flagged on old blog 

I’ve given myself a few days to mull this subject over in my head before I wrote about it. I’m not one, on my blog, to soap box, but this subject has been gnawing at me for weeks. I myself have been a practicing Alpha submissive for many years in my adult life, I have  had the privilege of serving a few amazing Masters and have had my share of my own kittens. I guess you could say I’m pretty old school in my thinking, I still practice the protocols that I was taught all those years ago. We all know submissive’s, while some of them feisty, crave structure. It’s all part of the ultimate surrender. Allowing another to structure our actions, even some of our thought patterns. Not saying we can’t use our own minds. God forbid. I’m a pretty intelligent submissive and pretty strong willed, but that moment, those seconds that I feel myself relinquishing control are some of the most satisfying in the entire journey, for it means that “He” can fully handle me. I know that sounds funny, but when you are both strong willed and can intellectually hold your own, it takes a certain kind of Dominant to coax that surrender. Thankfully, my Daddy does that with such ease. I suppose that He has learned how to fully push my buttons. 

And now about the subject that won’t leave me to my surrendered bliss. I know there are different types of surrender, meaning depths, I’m an all or nothing sort of girl, myself. I read what most of the people I follow write, captions on photos, poems, even stories. And one thing I keep seeing over and over is what I call ‘Topping from the bottom’ … Now, I’m not even sure if that’s a thing these days, but in my circle it most certainly is. I actually consider it to be a form of disrespect. Again, I am pointing no fingers at anyone, not accusing anyone of being disrespectful. That is so not my intent. I am just trying to re-educate myself, if you will. 

Some of you might even say “What the hell is Topping from the bottom?”. I will tell you what it is. It’s when a submissive, generally a very strong willed submissive exerts her own Dominance directed towards her Dominant. The funny thing, the whole dynamic of a conversation will change with the use of ONE solitary word…. “Please”.  For example the other day I was reading a little short story of a lovely devoted submissive who really wanted her Daddy to lick her pussy before He used it for His own pleasure and she repeatedly barked. “Lick my pussy Daddy! Lick my pussy Daddy!” Now, that’s hot in it’s own right. A woman not afraid to verbally voice her desires is usually a turn on for most, yes? However, in the structure of this little short story, she was His, His property, His pet. Now, again, only from my real life practices to I draw these conclusions on my own. That whole scenario would of been perfect had that needy little submissive screamed “Please Daddy, lick Your pussy.” Henceforth leaving the Dominant fully in charge of the proceedings. In the story He did just as she had demanded. 

Now, I am speaking for only myself here, but as an Alpha, myself. (with women only) I would not stand for my submissive to steer or direct me in any way. That’s not to say that I would not give her, eventually, what she desired, because I also believe it’s about the submissive as well. But that would happen at my time, and in the order I desired. Speaking from experience, IF I ever felt as if I could Top my Dominant from the bottom…. it was done. I could not completely, and without reservation give myself to someone whom I could in any way control myself. I know some of you are thinking, “Zevypoo is a hard ass.” Actually, I’m one of the softest people you would ever meet. I just have that protocol, those rules, if you will, still embedded in my memory. 

Why would you even proclaim to have a Dominant if you are going to direct them? That makes no sense to me whatsoever. If you are His, then you have said to Him… I give myself to YOU to guild and protect me. Not, I give myself to you, unless you are not doing what I want you to do. hahahaNow, I would gladly take thoughts, on this from anyone. I’m not trying to push off my beliefs on anyone. I know some of you would say, ‘Perhaps that’s just a bratty submissive.“ Don’t even get me started on that. hahaha I’m all about respect, knowing my place, which I chose to occupy. And making Him FEEL my unwavering devotion. If that’s too old school for most, then so be it. I’m not about to change who and what I am at this point in my adult life. I sort of like knowing that when I give myself that I know HE will feel that it’s real. That I’m not pretending, I’m not playing games, I’m given over. Surrendered….His.   

 In any relationship you should have room to grow and be you, that's one of the keys to a healthy long-lasting relationship. if you can't do that then things can get unhealthy and very dark it is most likely time to say goodbye. I was reading this article and thought I would share some with you. 

1. The good is gone. Goodness and kindness are what hold people together. It looks like support, admiration, respect, dedication, and commitment to each other. Goodness doesn’t disappear overnight; it’s a slow trickle. Unfortunately, once it’s gone, there’s usually a lot of hurt filling in the spaces, and it’s very hard to return from that.
2. You’re being disrespected. Behaviors such as insults, lying, or cheating are all signs of disrespect, and they reveal a lack of concern about how you feel and how these behaviors affect you. If you’re unsure if your partner is disrespectful or unaware, tell them how their behavior affects you. If they try to understand and alter their behavior, they show they care, whereas if they dismiss you or go right back to the same behavior, they show a lack of respect for you and the relationship.
3. The energy flow between people in most healthy relationships is pretty equal. That give and take makes both partners feel like their needs are taken care of. When a relationship starts to fall apart, one person may feel they are doing all the work to keep it running. If you feel you’ve been doing all the work, step back for a bit and see if your partner picks up the slack. Chances are if they don’t try to realign the energy with you, they aren’t coming back.
4. Your relationship should give you room to be authentically you and grow. If you feel the relationship is all about the other person, try to create some personal space and be vocal about your needs. You may have to move on if your partner gets upset or isn’t responsive.

Fakes and scammers

I loved this lifestyle ever since I remember. pro trained and educated to teach it.
More and more I see new things titles and group names being used that aren't even part of the club.
it's heart breaking to see this the founders worked so hard to form these clubs like leather man or wolf packs and even pups
pups was for gay men they form wolf packs.
Leatherman was and is a club with a head Lord with clubhouse rules.
I can go on and on.
I didn't steal or use their titles when forming my pack/club
but I did embrace what I learned
I do not take or use their club
or make up titles
to me a sub is sub why add on to it
okay now going on
their is scammers using this lifestyle using slave to do their scamming
this lifestyle isn't about money it never showed be used that way it never was used in that form
that's really heartless of people.

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