Many think the safe word keeps the submissive safe. this is wrong.
A submissive has other rights and privilege's
What is the difference between right's and privilege's, this can be
confusing. A Dominant will sometimes give a submissive privileges.
It's a area that of power that's transferred to the Dominant.
examples are
having orgasm
what to eat at meals
what outfit to wear
When you call Him Master/Sir/Daddy
Aright is something non-negotiable. It isn't something period.
Lets draw up the bill of rights now.
1) The right to have a safe word.
This is not ego-driven, satisfaction or notch in your bed post.
this is not a game to force the safe word out of the submissive mouth.
If the safe word called stop and engage in submissive support in a
loving way. If you can't do this you are not a Dom. Respect the safe
word always.
2)The right to express your wants.
What you want can be toxic to the dynamic and inimical to
full flourishing submissive.
3)The right to have your needs met.
It is the Dominant responsibility to give the submissive what
the submissive needs, it has nothing to do with what submissive want's.
example
submissive may want to eat pizza, but the submissive needs to eat
healthy.
What would the Dominant say?
A submissive knows her deepest needs are. The Dominants responsibility
to explore and find those needs. Sometimes the needs are what the submissive
hates the most, but it's what's best for the submissive.
examples
being still
position training
maintenance discipline
corner time
sticking to a schedule and routine
treating her dominant property (the submissive body) with proper respect
being held fully accountable
Some submissive hate some of these things, but it's what's best for the submissive,
The submissive will know the needs are met over time.
4)The right to loyalty and fidelity.
If the submissive approached by another Dominant. the submissive has the
right to say "I'm taken" period. Failure to respect this rule it's highly offense.
It works both ways the Dominant needs to do the same.
5)The right to cry
Submissive are among the strongest in every other aspect of their lives they
are likely to be.
tough
strong
the fixer
the alpha in their vanilla lives
they are the ones turned to for strength
They cant be strong all the time. this is the number one reason submissive needs
cleansing healing of tears more then other people. This is the corner of life where
submissive to let go knowing your Dominant will hold you without judgment as
you cry
6)The right to have a bad day
We are human beings we cant all be flawless. we have lives, job, children and
responsibilities. This dose not make you a bad submissive. You are just a submissive
trying to juggle this very important aspect of your life.
Depending on your agreement with your Dominant you are fully accountable you
expect punishment if things slip.
7)The right to respect
Submissive has a voice in any healthy D/s relationship. Voice matters submissive
have a right to be heard. Submissive input are respected and fully engaged in the
relationship. Should be open to thoughts and concerns.
8)Submissive has the right to be embraced for who and what you are.
It is good for a Dominant to challenge the submissive, to always rise the bar.
It helps the submissive become a better and stronger submissive. This is a big part
of why a Dominant is in a submissive life. The goal be the best you can be no
some ideal woman that the Dominant constructed in a dream world.
If the submissive is a tom boy embrace it. The Dominant should embrace that
essence of you. A Dominant doesn't change you into something your not.
9)The right to speak your mind after a scene.
This is called "debrief" How are you feeling? ( in your head, heart and body)
What are your thoughts on experience?
this is a lovely way to keep the connection alive during after care.
Dom to sub love
Author Natalie. S.
