Dominants, real Dominants, true Dominants

Dominants, real Dominants, true Dominants

They are deities amongst us.

They have more mortals.

It's easy to read nice quotes,

touching insights,

do's and dont's,

the feeling they have,

and the divine power.

The right Dominant can walk in life of a submissive

and make it magical and everything better for her.

The sunshine brighter in her eyes,

her heart beat's louder no longer broken,

such power.

That's a good Dominant a real true Dominant

with absolute power. He has all His attention towards

you and magically everything makes since, and life

easier for the submissive.

Not only are they deities amongst us and more mortals.

But they almost grovel at the feet of a submissive at the

same time. They are blessed that a submissive to yield

to their power, but need to be careful or be taken

advantage of.

Dominants are magical beings who can walk into a

life of a submissive and make everything better, and

make a happy ever after that they are grateful for.

The problem is their not magical or divine humans.

Dominants don't always have the answers. They do

have flaws, they can't be perfect.

Good Dominants are capable of doing His best

and doing His best is work with His partner to build

a relationship that works for both of them. He will

support His partner in achieving their goals and

dreams.

A Dominant don't take their submissive for

granted, He cherishes her.

The Dominant responsible of making

submissive life absolutely perfect.

A submissive loves her Dominant dearly.

He helps her in many ways in her life, it

is better with Him. He wonderful partner

best friend, brilliant owner, creative

Dominant. He best person a submissive can

have in her life.

She has flaws, a submissive probably has PTSD

gets nightmares, still gets triggers, has trust issues,

and gets anxious.

A Dominant helps with this. He gives her guidance,

He knowledge this with care. With His skills, love

and desire.

He cant magically make it batter, but He makes it easier

He loves her with her flaws, that's what makes a D/s

relationship.

Author Natalie. S,

Giving Him respect

What makes or breaks

What makes or breaks

Fan mail question

What makes or breaks a D/s relationship?

Answer

You may like to be someone good girl, or just surrender to a partner.

It needs to be someone you trust. You cant just jump into a D/s relationship.

If you jump into one that will break it and it will not work. You need to

spend time together for it to work and build trust for it to work.

Trust is earned not given. You need to work for it to earn trust. That's what

makes it.

It needs to be someone your safe with.

You cant just surrender power to any one you meet.

There needs to be continuous communication from both sides that's the key.  

Author Natalie. S,

D/s relationship isn't always perfect

D/s relationship isn't always perfect

His woman kneels,

holding His drink,

That what Doms/daddies/Masters do.

True Doms never lose their cool,

get's sick,

get's cranky,

need time to them selfs,

cry,

never disappoint their sub,

wrong they do.

True subs never defiant,

disagreeable,

get's grouchy,

get's bratty,

get's defensive,

pouts,

misbehaves,

wrong they do.

In real D/s it has it's problems just like any other relationship.

Sometimes it just may be hard to surrender. She may feel sensitive, sore.

She has pride, she may struggle to kneel before Him and hold her tug.

She may check out, switch off, tune out, to do the task properly, and may

not feel a thing.

She dose this because, she wants to please Him, make Him happy,

because that's what makes her happy and she loves to do this for Him.

It's far from perfect, it has it's struggles. There incredible growth

in the lifestyle, in levels of intimacy connection, desire and communication

then you could ever imagined.  

Author Natalie. S.

Understanding a Domininant

Understanding a Dominant

A Dominant man is confident in Himself,

He knows what he want's and takes it.

He carry Himself with confidence,

He stands up to most.

He understands a submissive,

She feels understood.

He is a real man, not a brick wall.

He hurts, he get's tired, and he can

be weak on some days.

His submissive is strong for Him,

she not clingy, but she His treasure,

His support, she respects and obeys Him.

She gives Him trust, follows His rules.

In return He supports her, guides her,

gives her confidence in herself.

He helps her blossom into a wonderful

submissive that makes Him proud.  

Author Natalie. S,

Power of exchange

Power of exchange

Fan mail question:

As a submissive in a power exchange dynamic, is it good for you to occasionally be required to do things you don't particularly enjoy?

Answer

No you should follow your limits you. You should never be forced, doing something you are not comfortable with.

You should have a list of limits each have a copy of the list

she wants and her wont's

His wants and His wont's

those are called limits, but your Dom should NEVER put you in a spot your NOT comfortable with. She should be able to submit comfortably  

Author Natalie. S,

The word submissive

The word submissive

Many think it is negative to to the outside world.

Here in the states it's value of courage and boldness.

Some rail against submissive tried to devalue those who submit.

Some bully them seeing them has easy targets.

This can easily break a submissive.

A submissive is a symbol of strength and great personal discipline .

A submissive is far from weak.

There some of the toughest people.

Author Natalie. S,

what is a Submissive

What is a submissive

A lot of what you read is not what a submissive is. She is one who obeys without hesitation no matter what, and finds disagreement not to be considered.

She is independent.

One who neither needs any reciprocation of effort, affirmation or good behavior.

She makes no judgment.

A good submissive places her partner happiness before her own.

A good submissive gives pleasing to her partner with her whole heart, with the best effort.

Dose it make you less to think your Dominant return and respect her needs and give positive reinforcement?

No

Is written that a submissive = less then?

No

If a good Dominant expects to be appreciated then the submissive should have the same.

The Dominant has the power over the submissive BUT she should be able to love her Dominant, because that what makes her happy and that's a big apart of who she is.

A submissive needs a Dominant and a Dominant needs a submissive.

A good submissive she loves deeply and generously.

A good submissive shares and thinks openly with her Dominant.

A good Dominant isn't afraid to acknowledge when he is wrong.

A good submissive is never afraid to say sorry when she is wrong.

A good submissive she likes to approach new things (barring hard limits)

This is a real submissive.


Author Natalie. S.

BDSM 101 Basic rules of getting a sub

  Many come to this lifestyle by see photographs of kinky bondage sex, thinking that all there is to a D/s relationship, and think they can just go out and get a sub and that's it. There so much more to this lifestyle. Here is just a few things that you should know about getting a sub.

1) Are all submissive up for grabs?
No there not, either there in a relationship or not. Some might be collar and own, that means they can not be touched, they are owned by there Dominant. NO other has the right to touch them. If they are single or unowned they can choice the Dominant or play partner NO other has the right over them.
Note: There is submissive that come into this lifestyle married to full feel a need, this may become a issue down the road. so think about it before comment.

2) In an existing relationship is it ok to pursue a submissive?
Many in the D/s community are monogamous, but if you see them in a relationship respect them and move on. there may be couples out there looking for a play partner polyamorous, this may not mean you you need a sub, there are individuals that are just polyamaorous.

3) What do submissive like to be called?
Terms used such has: Princess, Kitten, Pet, Cat, Baby girl, Sub, Little girl.
These terms are used and eared by there Dominant. Submissive DO NOT want to be called this by other Dominants or others. This is a special bond by the Dominant and the submissive.

4) Do submissive like to be called or referred to has whore, slut,or cunt, ect.
No not all are into intodegradation, and to be called it by anyone else other then her Dom it is a huge disrespect to her.

5 ) Can you treat your submissive any way you choose?
No you can't. Just because they give you control dose not make them unworthy of your respect.

6) Dose Dominant men expect others to hit on their submissive?
No they don't. Some may like to show off what is His because He knows He has what they might want, but the Dominant wants their relationship to be respected. So keep your desires to your self. If your not sure the submissive in a relationship try to ask.

7) Is there anything wrong with asking a submissive to be your sub?
No but always try to get to know her first. It takes a lot of trust to be a submissive and trust is earned.

8) Is there anything wrong with asking a Dominant to be your Dom?
No but again get to know him first. you just don't hand over trust to a stranger.

9) A re all submissive alike?
No there not. There is many kinds, but each is unique.

10) Are all Dominants alike?
No They all have their own appetites, rules., but they adapt to their submissive needs and the right care for His submissive.

Note: These are just the basics guide lines and rules of the lifestyle. Just remember each person and relationship is different, unsure about something sit back to observe and learn, or err on the side of caution and respect.

All rights reserved Author Natalie. S.

Real life D/s couple

We love each other so much. We cant live without each other.
Being apart puts  a big ache in our hearts and souls.

We had good and bad times together. The love and trust we
have gets us throw the decisions life puts at us.

When there struggle we struggle together.

When we love we love hard.

We communicate together has one.

we connect on a level that no one else can share.

My Sir is my hero. He feels it to.

My Sir is my home, my safe place. I know that
now more then anything.

When we disagree we talk it out, we don't argue.
If Sir thinks i need a punishment to fix my wrong,
I except it without argument. Because I know
He is teaching me a lesson.

I am His and He knows it. He is my safe place,
He is my rock, the keeper of my heart and soul.
and He knows it.

We feed each others needs and contentment.

I love Him and he knows.and He loves me and
I know.

He don't punish me because He hates me. He
dose it because he loves me.

Our relationship is tender and rough, kindness
and harshness but full of love and trust for each
other.

All rights reserved Author Natalie. S.

Why are submissive spoked

Why do submissive get scitish or spoked easily well here what I learned it is because they are very loyal to there Dominant and there soul and heart mind are own. If they hurt there Master they feel so she does everything to protect that bond they share.
It's also the rules she also has to obey.
Submissive are not like other girls. That she will not have sex or submit to anyone. Like you may think that's where your wrong.  I say this so many times she is not a whore. She for her Master ONLY. Even when she is un own she will wait.
So when people message me cock pics and asking for sex your hurting me and your hurting my Master. It is so much disrespect tourds us.

All rights reserved Author Natalie S.

You think you are a Dom

Your sub is a warrior, she also the most strongest, smartest, kindest, intelligent, generous and the most independent person you know.
She not without flaws and weakness.
Look around her life and outside of the relationship, you wonder why. A woman like her end up being a perfect natural submissive.
It's because He relieves her of caring for herself. Now don't confuse this with actually breaking her to the point that she don't care for herself.
She cannot, will not, and should not not prioritize Him. She shouldn't have a shadow of a doubt that He prioritize her.
He may cum first but she COMES first.
It is His responsibly to care for her, more than she ever cared for herself. She needs to see it, feel it, and confident in it.
She needs to be 200% confident that He will not take advantage of her vulnerability and that He will not let her come to any harm.
She able to submit to Him completely because she does not feel second and not have to worry about taking care of herself.
If He fails that responsibly, or for one minute He put her in a position she feels the need to look after herself because He not then she can't fully surrender.
That means Him staying up all fucking night  because He seen signs she going to subdrop before she falls asleep and wakes up in the middle of the night. He needs to be there and ready to care for her.
Also means when you play out fantasy of her being tied up and leaving her in a room ready to be used by Him. He wants to be sitting right outside the door holding a baby monitor linked to one right behind her out of her sight listening for signs of distress or discomfort.
It means He don't get to pick and choose when He there for her.
Though day?
Stressed?
Tired?
Distracted?
She. COMES. First.
Consistently.
Even if the best He can do is sit down and ask her to recount her tasks for the day- the successes , failures and how she felt doing them, and hopping like Hell there's no need for correction or punishment. He knows it doesn't matter how tired He is. It will be addressed or if it can't  be that there will be a big discussion about it. It's also Himself a firm talking to when He hears those thoughts and sees the ego and selfishness coming back.
Means consistently putting her and our relationship first.
Means He just as present and focused on her tasks as she is, even the simple ones.
For example she writing and He's reading a book or working on the computer but actually He is counting the number of times she stops and rubs her wrists and stretches and noting facial expressions.
For example she's naked and humping His leg while He's fully clothed. He inspects her and verbally degrades her afterwards. But He's noting any skin irritation and the type of material He was wearing.
Means picking out her clothes each Day.
Being her Dominant isn't about Him, it's about her.
Just like being a submissive isn't about her, it's about Him.
Every single thing He does He gets back  tenfold, twentyfold, a thousandfold.
He wants her to look at him with respect and adoration. He wants her to be the woman who uses all the energy she has left to simply request worshipping Him. He wants her to run into His arms as soon has He gets home, even if He was gone five fucking minutes and there no reason for her to missed Him that much.
He wants the love letters she writes Him every day, without ever meaning to repeat herself. Always having something new about Him to write and admiration.
He wants her favorite bedtime stories to be about Him even if it's boring in His view.
His girl she smart but He wants her to come to Him when she has problems.
His girl she the kindest but He wants her  to ask advice from Him.
His girl is a  worrier who faces her battles head on and dears her demons to do their worst but He wants her to come running to Him and wrap herself around His leg. Because her favorite character died her book or thunderstorm made her jump or she woke up and he wasn't there.
His girl independent she has felt she she takes care of herself for longer than she cares to remember. He wants her to relie on Him to message her to remind her to eat, to do her hair, to shave, to dress her.
He wants the girl who put so many walls up with everyone else. Who respond to stress with a need  to be broken down and torn apart because she knows He will build her back up piece by piece and stronger than before.
And yes He wants insatiable slut. His filthy little bitch in heat who can be used for hours and still roll over and hump against his thigh. Who works herself ragged and volunteers comes home to him watching porn and get's on her knees and opens her mouth without word.0
First step in training her to be perfect submissive is allowing her to become perfect submissive and the only way to do that is to relive her of the burden of caring and  worrying about herself and her own needs.
If you can't do that for her then she can't properly let go and submit.
This is what really makes different from vanilla couples, there no room for selfishness or ego. He puts her first and she puts Him first. It's the only way needs are met.
If it seems like to much work or your to selfish or lazy or lack the time or energy your not ready for the responsibly. Then your not ready for the reality not ready to be a Dominant.

All rights reserved Author Natalie S

A will trained submissive

A submissive represent her Dominant, the way she talks, dresses and in everything she does, shows who her Dominant is.

A submissive obeys her Dominant in all things. Does not question His orders. She does not want to disappoint Him in any way. A good and well trained submissive has a need to and a craving to make Him happy and to please Him in all things.

He may say no to her it may be out of safety or may be something she may not need right now. She in return should respect that decision He has made with out question.

 

all rights reserved author New Rose